As a general rule, the first thing I ask my family law clients is whether they’ve sought relationship or divorce counseling. I think most marriages that end in divorce could have been saved. I think most family law attorneys would agree. Before you make the drastic decision to leave your marriage, consider the alternatives. Have you tried your best to make your marriage work? I believe that Imago Relationship Counseling can save your marriage and stop divorce in many cases.
It’s Pronounced ee-mah-go!
I am a strong believer of Imago Relationship Counseling or Imago Relationship Therapy. Counselors trained in Imago help couples eliminate conflict and work toward empathy. Most couples divorce because of conflict. In fact, most of us do not know how to deal with conflict in our lives. At the core of imago is dialogue, validation and mirroring. By using these techniques, all of us are capable of dealing with conflict effectively. The things that initially attracted you to your spouse will ultimately drive you crazy. How you both deal with conflict is the difference between reconciliation and divorce.
We’re All Wounded Souls
The two therapists that developed Imago were two psychologists: Harville Hendrix and his wife, Helen Hunt. If you haven’t read their bestselling books, “Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples” or “Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide,” you’re missing out big time. The creators of Imago believe that although we’re born whole, our personal experiences shape the rest of our lives, and at some point, we all become wounded souls. We take composite “snapshots” of our primary caretakers and from these composite images, we seek out and ultimately marry someone who possesses both the negative and positive traits of our caretakers.
Your ideal match or soul-mate is one who drives you crazy. Your Imago match is someone possessing both positive and negative traits of your primary caretakers. This probably explains why we feel like we’ve known someone our entire lives; really, it’s because you have. Ever have the feeling your significant other reminds you of your father or mother?
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